4 Tips on Living a Life Full of Controlled Chaos


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Someone once described my life as being “ridiculously chaotic”. At the time I didn’t pay it much attention, but last night when I was recalling the conversation, it suddenly struck a chord with me. I mean, I guess I always knew the “get a degree, marry young and have kids thing” was never for me, but I wouldn’t consider my life to be ridiculously chaotic. I like to think of my life as being full of Controlled Chaos.

One might ask, what is Controlled Chaos?

Controlled Chaos is living a life outside the norm. It’s trying things that aren’t always conventional. Having a life of controlled chaos is acknowledging that even with all the planning in the world, things will often happen outside of your control and being okay with that. It’s embracing the here and now. Controlled chaos is where spontaneity and stability kiss and make up. It’s seeing where life takes you and being emotionally grounded enough to just enjoy the ride.

Now a life of Controlled Chaos isn’t for everyone, but for those of you who are interested, here are a few tips to get a little controlled chaos in your life:

1. Follow Your Passion- Now I’m not saying quit your day job and move to India. What I am saying is, if there’s a passion in your life that you haven’t pursued for any reason, take time to explore it. For example, if you’ve always been passionate about fashion, consider taking a night class on Fashion Design. You never know where a passion of yours could lead you!

2. Scare the Crap Out of Yourself- Few things are as stress provoking as fear. There’s also nothing as rewarding as conquering a fear. Want to experience controlled chaos? If you hate speaking in front of crowds, take an improv comedy class. Terrified of the ocean? Try snorkeling next time you’re on vacation. If you’re shy, try wearing red lipstick for a day. Even something as simple as wearing red lipstick can make you feel bold, confident and slightly chaotic:)

3. Tune Out the I Cant’s- Nine times out of ten, the biggest thing holding us back from stepping outside the box, is ourselves. More often than not, you’re your own worst enemy. Stop all the self-hate. The more confidence you have in yourself, the more confidence others will have in you.

4. Be firm with your goals, but flexible with how you get there. Life is all about balance. Having clearly defined goals is super important, but don’t beat yourself up when your plans on achieving them don’t play out exactly how you hoped. The road to success and happiness is full of ups and downs. You can still achieve those goal whether or not it’s on the timeframe you had originally hoped for.

As you can see I’m all about controlled chaos. Maybe this post will push some of you to step outside of your comfort zone in some way. What does controlled chaos mean to you?


  • I actually live in India and it is pretty chaotic on an uncontrolled way.But I lover it.

  • LC @ A Life of Authenticity

    These are great tips! I love them and try to live by most of them! Thanks.

  • Ann

    This is such a great post. You know one thing I am scared of is flying but I do it , then I’m inside the plane in the air I get this crazy thoughts. Flying terrified me.

  • Deimarys Colon

    I really like number 4. Be firm but flexible, well said! Love the shoes though!

  • Ola Broom

    Controlled chaos is a term that I think describes pretty much every one I’ve ever met. When you really think about it, at nearly every moment of life there had been some sort of chaos going on. This is a great tip list on how to make it all work to your benefit anyway. Very cool outlook.

  • Filberlyn Chua

    Loved your post! This is new for me since I liked living my life in order. 🙂

  • Beth Shankle Anderson

    I loved the term Controlled Chaos. That is so me and probably a lot of bloggers. Good for you for living a fantastic life!

    Beth || http://www.TheStyleBouquet.com

  • What great ideas! I do always come up with ways to conquer my fear. For example, I hate to fly, but I still do it, and I just try to calm the heck down.

  • Natasha Smith

    I love #4, be flexible with how you reach goals. It’s easy to be so stuck on a plan that you miss out on a better way of reaching a goal.

  • Sophie Beland

    This is a great post about taking charge of the chaos! We are all definitely our biggest enemies.

  • Great post, sounds like my life, but it is not so controlled. I am working on it tho, you tips will help at lot.

  • fashion-mommy

    It’s am interesting concept, I think it would probably be applied to my life too, along with not enough time to fit everything and everyone in!

    • Yes finding time can be so difficult!

  • I like the definition about ‘Controlled chaos’ – lovely tips indeed 🙂

  • I like the last one “Be firm with your goals, but flexible with how you get there”, it’s something I’ve been thinking a lot about as well lately. I have a clear set of goals in mind, know where I want to be 5 years from now etc, but I have to accept that the path going there isn’t always going to be as smooth, that compromises will have to be made and that it might take longer than I want it to.

    • I’m glad you can relate to this post Sarah!

  • Absolutely love this!! I decided at 40 to try everything! Whats the worst that could happen! And I’ve had amazing adventures since 🙂

  • Kira L Curtis

    I love this! Although I’m currently doing a degree I spend a lot of my free time looking into all the other things I want to do in life 🙂

  • I can totally agree with this as I think my life is controlled chaos, a lot goes on and it’s outside the norm but nothing is stupidly chaotic x

    • It’s nice to know you can relate!

  • Laura

    I absolutely LOVE this post as I kind of feel like this is how I live my life! xxx

  • Melanie Edjourian

    I’m not to good at scaring myself and doing things that scare me although I guess once you have done something it isn’t so bad the next time.

    • Yes every now and then would be perfect!

  • I absolutely love this post. I feel like I need more of this in my life!

  • Great points, I would say I live my life in controlled chaos but I wouldn’t have it any other way x

    • I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

  • These are some really great points. The scaring the crap out of yourself is one I’d certainly find difficult… but you never know until you try I suppose!

  • Absolutely great tips, I have been embracing my controlled chaos for the last 5 years and it has been good to me lol. Scaring the crap out of my self has become more fun than fearful

    • I totally agree that it becomes more fun each time!

  • Savi and Vid

    Love that this isn’t the cliched self-help post. Instead these are so realistic and easy to follow 🙂

    • Thanks for stopping by and I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

  • I like the firm but flexible with goals. This is my motto for 2017! Great post!

  • Jodie Whitham

    Some great tips – i strongly believe in following your passions and the rest kind of sorts itself 🙂 x

    • I couldn’t agree more Julie!

  • My life seems chaotic as well to many but it is very quite and sedate really. One of the things that struck a chord with me was the be firm but flexible with goals. I’m doing small focuses each month while having a lower over all aim for everything. See it seems chaotic just writing it

    • Having small goals each month is so smart Steph!

  • I totally dig #4, Be Firm with your goals but flexible with the How….After all if you take the wrong detour on a roadtrip, you dont keep going, you can turn round. Lol #Controlledchaos 🙂 Enjoyed your post, short, sweet, punchy! my kind of post!

    • I’m glad you liked my post Julie!

  • you look great , im currently trying the possitive approach

    • Thanks Lisa! I struggle with being positive too, but I’m trying to do it daily!

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