20 year old me.

5 Things I’d Still Tell my 20 Year Old Self

I first wrote this post 5 years ago. It’s funny because I still agree with these things full-heartedly. I think it’s important for all of us to remember that life is one big rollercoaster where you’re learning lessons day in and day out. Don’t continue to punish yourself for things you did in the past. Live your best life now! With that being said, here are the 5 Things I’d Still Tell my 20 Year Old Self!


1. Your Fast Food Habit Will Catch Up to You- When I was 20, I thought I could eat horribly all the time and never gain a pound. Which was true. Up until this past year where I wasn’t as active and my metabolism slowed down.Ā  I would love to sit my 20 year old self down and force feed her some broccoli, instead of all that Chickfila.

2. Not Everyone Has to Like You- At 20, I was really concerned about having as many friends as possible. I thought that all the friends I made would be people I’d still be close with today. Although I’ve made some amazing friends who I’m still super close with, looking back I would tell myself that its all about quality when it comes to friendships, not quantity.

3. Stop Spending Money Like a Trust Fund Baby- When I think about how much money I was spending when I was 20, it makes me cringe. Between the money from modeling and working at a bar, I was making decent money for a 20 year old and I didn’t save one red cent. At the time I thought it would never run out. I’d love to shake the crap out of my 20 year old self and make her open a savings account.

4. Quit Partying Like Everyday is Spring Break– When I was growing up, I was raised in an extremely conservative Christian family, so when I was 20 I kind of lost it and went off the deep end with all the going out and partying. It didn’t help that I was living in Fort Lauderdale (where the mentality truly is that everyday is a weekend day) 20 minutes from Miami. If I could talk to my 20 year old self, I’d explain to her about how life is all about balance. That she doesn’t need to go out every night for fear that she might miss out on something, because after awhile all those nights start to run together. All the faces start to look the same. All the songs are repeated, and you start to lose a sense of who you are as a person.

5. You’re Independent Attitude is Just Downright Selfish- At 20 years old, I was all about being independent. I wanted to do what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it. I would tell myself now, that there’s a huge difference between being independent and just being downright self absorbed. My so called independence ended hurting people I care about, as well as hurting myself.

I hope this makes you laugh. I also hope it makes you question what you would tell your 20 year old self. I’d love to hear what you guys come up with!

  • Love this! It’s all so true. Damn, I totally agree with “Not Everyone Has to Like You”. I use to be so concerned about everyone liking me when I was younger.

  • bericebaby

    Love these. I agre bar number 5 I was always a mummy & daddy’s girl (I still am) thand thought of being fully Independent scares me – even with 2 kids Lol
    Great post Hun
    Charlotte x

  • fashion-mommy

    Love this, especially the one about food, I would be doing exactly the same.

    • I’m still doing it- I need to get better!

  • Beautyqueenuk

    I love this and I think at 20 we are all slightly selfish with a right old attitude x

  • Number 2 is 100% something I need to tell my 20, 30 and 40 year old self!!

    • They’re all things I still continue to struggle with too, so I understand Emma!

  • Sam Bresnahan

    There is many things I would tell my 20 year old self, probably things I would tell my 30 year old self too haha

  • Jemma@thimbleandtwig

    So true! Particularly not everyone has to like you!

  • I love these posts as it’s always interesting to see what people would tell their younger selves. Sounds like you’ve turned out well though so don’t be too hard on yourself! šŸ˜‰

  • Haha I love this post! And I do totally agree with you. But I do agree with Jess that you learn from experience šŸ˜‰

    • Thanks for commenting Sarah!

  • Helen Clark

    I would definitely tell my younger self 1 and 3! Though I think we all have to go through these things to learn and become who we were.

    • That’s a very good point Helen!

  • I think these are all things you have to learn through experience to be honest! It’s all part of growing up šŸ™‚ That said, I’d like to tell my 20-year-old self not to waste time on useless men haha.

    • That’s true, experience can be the best teacher!

  • Healthy & Psyched

    I need to tell myself number 3. I always plan to budget but then make exceptions for everything!

    • So many of us struggle with that. It’s so hard when it comes to money!

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