Dealing with death can be difficult at any age and regardless of who you lose, whether they’re someone really close or someone you knew, it can be tough. We all need that time in a different way, and if you’re struggling, here’s how to help yourself through this difficult time in your life.
1. Take Your Time.
Everyone is different when it comes to death. Some find it easy to move on, where others are the complete opposite, and it might take them years to find closure. There is no right or wrong amount of time that it takes to move forward with your life after losing someone. You never truly get over it because you shouldn’t have to nor want to. Instead, you want to take your time with the process and know that everyone can handle death in their own way.
It doesn’t make it the wrong way, and if you’re struggling, it could be because you’re trying to get yourself past it when your body and mind might not be ready yet.
2. Process The Grief.
Grief is one of those emotions that can be hard to navigate because unless you’ve lost someone before, it’s difficult to know what to do or how to feel. Processing the grief is needed, and sometimes it can envelop you in your emotions for a while. Don’t feel like you have to grieve the same way others are grieving because we all have our own triggers and feelings towards the person you’ve lost. Yours could be a deeper connection and one that’s got more memories or feelings attached to it. So continue processing the grief for however long it might take.
It’s also important to remember that whatever emotion you are feeling, it’s okay. There will be moments where everything feels like you’re being sucked into a vortex right in the middle of the supermarket, but buying the cemetery grave markers and dealing with the coroner may see you operating at your most sociable. Grief is a condition where there is no one size fits all method. Take your time and, as long as you are doing what you can to engage with the thoughts and feelings of the situation, instead of running away from them, you will be processing them.
3. Sort Out Anything Legally.
Legally, there may be elements of the death that might need to be sorted by yourself. Things like sorting a wrongful death attorney if you feel like the death itself was preventable, and the actions of others actually contributed to their death. Organizing the funeral itself and any legalities in terms of their estate will need to be sorted too. It’s not something you want to be doing while grieving, but it is something you need to get done.
4. Speak To Friends And Family.
Keeping your emotions on lockdown is never going to help with going through the death of a loved one. A lot of help can be found through talking to other friends and family about how you’re feeling and whether they may be going through the same thing. If friends and family seem too personal, then you can always consider getting help from a professional. Remember that talking your feelings out loud is always better than keeping them under lock and key. You need to talk and get things off your chest that you’re feeling, no matter how dark they may be.
Dealing with the death of a loved one can be difficult, so follow these tips in order to help yourself as you go through what will be a very painful period of your life.