Originally published on Philadelphiamft.com.
What makes you happy? When is the last time you’ve felt this way? What does it look like for you? These are all important questions to consider when we’re evaluating what it takes to be happy. These days, many find themselves sacrificing happiness for sustenance. Life can be tough and sometimes responsibilities make it hard for people to fully focus on their internal needs. Here are a few tips to help you recharge your happiness.
1. Add “No” to your vocabulary. There are several reasons why people shy away from using “no.” Whether your reasons are to avoid conflict or save face, it’s likely that not saying “no” has still led you to difficult moments. Instead of engaging in conversations or activities that make you uncomfortable; learn to shut down situations as they arise. Saying “no” allows you to control how much of yourself you want to give. Being in control of how your energy is exhausted allows you more freedom to dedicate to doing things you enjoy.
2. Be open. Try new things. Examine situations from new perspectives. The pursuit of happiness can be an arduous task so it’s important to be open to different pathways. Sometimes happiness hides in the unexpected. Don’t be afraid to take a chance.
3. Separate your accomplishments from your self worth. Just because you may not be where you want to be in life, does not mean that you are an undeserving person. We all have goals and sometimes things don’t go exactly as we planned. It happens. Feeling disappointed is natural, just be careful not to shift into self loathing. Your current circumstances don’t make you unworthy.
4. Stop Comparing. Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone has a unique journey and a unique pace. Focus on doing things in ways that work for you.
Happiness is a complex concept. It looks and feels differently for everyone, but most people can agree that it’s an important concept in life. If you find yourself struggling to find your happiness, please do not hesitate to contact any of the therapists here at Philadelphia MFT.
Malyka Cardwell is a Couple and Family Therapist based in the Philadelphia. Malyka graduated with a BS in Psychology and a minor in English from Old Dominion University. She then went on to study at Thomas Jefferson University’s Couple and Family Therapy program with a specialization in Sex Therapy. To contact her for professional help email her here: MCardwell@PhiladelphiaMFT.com.