If your relationship feels like it’s falling apart, you probably feel a little torn up about what to do. However, it’s important to consider your options when you feel like this. Everybody goes through a rough patch in their relationship from time to time – everybody. Yep, even those couples who tend to look happy and smug whenever you see them.
There are a multitude of reasons your relationship may be falling apart, but there are also a number of things you can do about them. Read on and get some suggestions that could help you to save your relationship – or even be sure that letting it go is the right thing to do.
1. There’s Too Much Miscommunication
We all have crossed wires from time to time, but if there’s too much miscommunication in your relationship, it’s no wonder things feel like they are going south. Miscommunication can happen for a number of reasons. Sometimes, we don’t say what we really mean, and instead try to signal or hint what we mean. This can cause problems. It’s important to look at where your crossed wires are and why you think they keep coming about.
Being able to talk calmly and work things through like adults is essential. If you both fly off the handle and jump to conclusions, your relationship can quickly turn toxic. Check out a few ways to communicate better, and if you still struggle, it might be worth checking out couples counseling to see what can change. Having a mediator there to listen to your issues could help you to see things from another perspective.
2. You’re Having Money Troubles
Money troubles are one of the biggest reasons that couples end up breaking up. Money is a hard subject for many couples to talk about, and it can be even more difficult if they have different views and attitudes towards money. Having a money talk early on and agreeing on some things will help you to avoid arguments. For example, will you share a bank account eventually? What sort of purchases can you make without consulting your partner? It’s important to think about these things and discuss them so money never becomes an issue for you.
3. You’re Not Being Honest and Open With One Another
Being honest and open with one another is key to a happy relationship. If you can’t tell your partner something important or something that’s bothering you, then who can you tell? If one of you feels like the other is hiding things, this will cause suspicion and potentially arguments – even if it’s actually nothing to be concerned about. Your partner may be very intuitive and picking up on the fact that something is changed or wrong even if you haven’t mentioned anything. Sometimes, it can simply be better to get it off your chest before it causes a real rift between the two of you.
4. You’ve Had A Baby
Many people seem to think having a baby will make their relationship, when in reality, it can break it. It can make certain couples stronger and it can be tougher for others to adjust. If you’re in the latter category, making sure you still spend one on one time together is important. Your priorities have changed, but your partner should still be one of them. Making sure you co-parent, instead of being the baby’s sole carer and having the other ‘baby sit’ from time to time can also help. If one of you is doing most of the leg work, it can cause a rift between you due to resentment. It can be different for every couple, which is why working on that communication, staying attuned to one another’s needs, and making sure you still spend time together alone is a must.
5. You’re Focusing On Everything That’s Wrong With Your Partner
When you’ve been with your partner for a while, it’s really easy to begin focusing on everything you’d like to change. Many people forget why they got together in the first place. Rather than focusing on silly things, like how they butter their bread, try to remember why you love them every day. What you focus on tends to grow in importance, so if you’re always thinking of the downsides, that’s all you’ll see! Of course, if they are doing something terrible, like keeping secrets, stealing from you, or even abusing you, you should get help and get out.
Remember, honesty is the best policy. Have an honest conversation with your partner to figure out how you can move forward!