As the saying goes, breaking up is hard to do. Whether you were the one who instigated it, or your partner ended the relationship, you will go through all manner of feelings and emotions, from loneliness to anger. It sucks big time, and you will question yourself, from the things you did to the words you said. We aren’t saying your relationship is over for good – there may still be a chance to salvage it (check out the Get Your Ex Back Super System) – but if it really is over, these are the things you should never do.
1. Don’t contact them.
Your relationship is over, and you need to deal with the fact. Getting in touch with them again, be that through text or social media, is not going to help you in the long term. They may not want to speak to you again anyway, and you will only cause yourself pain and confusion if you try to resume a relationship in any capacity.
2. Don’t go on the rebound.
It’s easy to jump straight into a new relationship after a breakup, but this is completely the wrong way to get over your breakup anxiety, whether you are looking to fill the hollow gap in your life, or if you are trying to take out revenge on your ex. Instead, you need to find yourself again, have some time on your own to get a better perspective on your life, and work out how things may play out differently in the future. By doing so, you will have a better chance of an improved relationship the next time around.
3. Don’t beat yourself up about it.
Whether you ended the relationship or not, you shouldn’t be hard on yourself. Yes, you will have questions about what happened, and yes, it is possible to blame yourself, but you need to give yourself a break. Learn from the breakup by all means, but don’t over analyze everything you said or did, as you are only going to make yourself feel worse.
4. Don’t isolate yourself.
There will be times when you want to be alone, and that’s okay. But don’t forget the other important relationships in your life, be they family or friends. Not only can they be there to support you through this difficult time, but they can also distract you, take your mind off your sorrow, and help you to remember the other things you are passionate about.
5. Don’t stalk your ex on social media.
When it’s over, it’s over, so there is no point making yourself feel worse by following their every move on social media. You will only get your feelings hurt if it appears their life seems to be going better than yours. If there is no reason to keep them in your social media circle anymore – and there probably isn’t – unfriend or block them, to remove the temptation to track his every move.
While it can be easy to let a broken relationship put you off dating forever, you shouldn’t let it rule your life. Time does heal, as glib as that sounds, and you will bounce back eventually. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, but with time, you’ll start to feel better and begin to let go of that relationship.