When we first get into a relationship, we have our rose-tinted glasses on and even the things that would usually irritate us about a person are cute to us. Then we settle down, the honeymoon stage ends, and things start to look a little more realistic.
Some of us are great at assessing whether or not the relationship has serious potential or whether we’d be better off calling it a day, but others find it really difficult to know whether a relationship is right or wrong. With that in mind, to help the latter lovers out, here are some glaring signs that you’re in the wrong relationship:
1. You’re always changing yourself.
If your relationship is making you feel like you need to change who you are to impress your partner, especially if they get moody when you don’t agree with them or like to do the same things it’s a pretty big red flag that things aren’t right.
Sure, it’s great when spouses have a lot of common interests and similar world views, but it’s also cool to have some differences and it’s really NOT cool for one partner to try and push the other into being someone they aren’t. The right person will love you for who you really are not who they mold you to be.
2. Your friends and family hate them.
Okay, this is a tricky one because some of us have friends or family members who would hate anyone we got together with for one reason or another, but if you have good friends and family members who you know truly want the best for you; who you know absolutely have your back and THEY’RE telling you things aren’t right, you may want to go ahead and listen.
Often those closest to us can see things we can’t and they’ll be sitting there knowing the relationship is destined to end with a trip to the divorce attorney while we’re happily picking out wedding dresses and dreaming of a long life together. It would be foolish not to at least take their warnings into consideration.
3. Constant criticism.
If a guy or a girl starts to get really critical on you. I mean if nothing you do is ever right or good enough for them, it’s a big glowing red flag that your relationship is wrong. Why? Because sometimes people use criticism to chip away at your confidence so they can get you under their control and have you doing things their way. The occasional joke or criticism where it really is due is fine – none of us are perfect and sometimes we do need to hear that – but if it’s constant, it’s not good.
4. There’s no trust.
How do you feel when your spouse heads off for the night/ Do you think great I cn have some me-time or do you start tracking his phone, worrying if he’s meeting other girls, tearing your hair out because you don’t know what he’s up to? How does he react when you go out? If it’s the latter, there is definitely a lack of trust in your relationship and since trust is the foundation of a good relationship, you might want to rethink the whole thing. Sometimes, it’s possible to work on trust issues, but if that isn’t possible, moving on to a healthier partnership is probably going to give you your best shot at happiness.
5. You find yourself thinking about other people.
There’s nothing wrong with noticing another woman is attractive or admiring that guy in the bar, but if you spend a significant amount of time imagining yourself with other people, fantasizing about the possibilities and neglecting your actual relationship, that’s a pretty clear sign that you aren’t totally happy and you might want to have a serious conversation with yourself about whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
6. The sex is bad.
If there’s no longer a spark in the bedroom, chances are you’ve both gotten bored and gotten so used to each other that there is simply not enough magic to make it work any longer. It sucks, but it is what it is.
Spot any of these signs in your relationship, and it might be time to rethink whether you’re with the right partner or not.