Arguably, being told that you have some kind of life-limiting illness is one of the worst things that can ever happen to you. No matter what age you might be, you will always find this a shock, and it’s one of life’s hardest challenges that any of us will have to deal with. There are of course more and less tragic-seeming instances of this, but every time it happens to a person it is tragic really, and it always affects everyone around the person in a number of profound ways too, many of which can be upsetting and disturbing. In this post, we are going to look at the process of dealing with such a circumstance, and the sorts of things which are likely to be able to help make it a little easier to cope with.
The support of loved ones is the most important thing of all, and the first and main thing to focus on if someone is in this kind of situation. Offering your support to someone close to you in this way is hugely valuable, and often it is the only thing a person wants in order to feel as though they still matter and they are being looked after. It’s also just incredibly important in terms of someone being there to talk to them and care for them, and if nothing else it makes the whole situation considerably easier to deal with. Offer support to the person in question, and you will find that they are much more equipped to deal with the situation at hand, as terrible as it obviously is to be in.
As well as that kind of emotional support, the person is going to need some form of care, and the quality of this care will ultimately determine the quality of the end of their life, and their life on the whole. So it’s important to spend whatever time you need to seeking out the kind of care that seems genuinely likely to make some kind of difference – and that should be easy enough to come across if you try. Most of all you should aim for finding some good quality certified palliative care, as they are the carers who will be able to ensure that the individual in question is comfortable and really being looked after in the way that you would hope. That care is vital to them having a good end of life.
It is central that the individual who is suffering has as much information as necessary for their condition, their prognosis and the kind of care and treatment they are going to have to receive. Being kept in the dark will only mean that they resent those around them, and that they become scared and anxious too. Make sure that you are doing whatever you can to keep them informed, even if that means researching the illness together and asking the doctor for more information. The more they are informed, the better.