STOP IT! 3 Ways We Sabotage Our True Self
Written by Brittany Kinsey
Anything can be harmful if gone untreated, especially insecurities. We all have them, and if you can’t think of any then you should read this article twice. Half the battle is being honest with ourselves about who we are and what we want. Often times this can be a challenge because who we want to be and who we are differ. Masking insecurities with dishonesty leads to even bigger problems. Here are 3 ways hiding what hurts damages our potential to overcome our short comings.
1. Projecting illusions.
Faking who you are is a disservice to yourself. When we compare ourselves to the status quo our individualism begins to die. Status quo comparisons are dangerous because we are essentially saying, “I am not good enough.” Although this is a normal feeling, what we do with this feeling is what defines us. We have crossed the red line when we busy ourselves with creating an image instead of working on our true self. Knowing who you truly are and being that person bold and aloud is brave. Not only is it brave, it is necessary. Being you is how confidence is born. We cannot correct our insecurities with creating a false image.
2. Covering up the problem instead of fixing it.
Here’s an example- Let’s say that I am broke. I am insecure and feel inadequate because of my financial situation. Therefore, I long for expensive things that I know highlight wealth. The first chance I get I buy these things, as if I am someone else. What does this fix? Nothing. In fact it puts me in debt and I am contributing to my own downfall. Instead of fixing my image, let’s say I fix my problem. I focus on creating more income. I invest in my mind so I know my worth way before I get the wealth. It is beautifully freeing to be completely honest with oneself. Insecurities come from a place of insufficiency. Be loud and clear about where it hurts. If we center our energy on creating a better self and taking care of what needs to be healed within, I can almost guarantee your esteem will follow suit. Build self esteem, the rest will come.
3. Attracting what we have become.
Often times we change our behavior to match the people surrounding us. The problem with this is obvious; we have now attracted a crowd of fakeness. We have encircled ourselves with the people who think we are a certain way, when in reality we are another way entirely. It is hard to love yourself when people are praising you for being someone else. We now have the faux friends to match the faux self. If you can’t be honest with your friends about your shortcomings, get rid of them. It’s easy to be genuine with genuine friends.
In what other ways do we sabotage our true selves? Share your thoughts with us here!
Brittany Kinsey is a Georgia-based writer living and loving life! Check out her personal musings at FaithHeartHustle!