UR HELP: 3 Ways to Deal With Loneliness
Written by Alanna Gardner, MFT
This article was originally published on PhiladelphiaMFT.com. Be sure to check out their site for professional relationship and sex advice.
Loneliness is a feeling that we all experience, one that is not unique to the human condition. However the pain of loneliness seems to be magnified the most during the holiday season when people celebrate with friends and loved ones. It can be hard fighting the sadness that accompanies loneliness but it is indeed possible. Here are 3 simple tips to help you break out of the shackles of loneliness:
1. Identify How You’re Feeling.
It’s important to recognize when you’re feeling lonely. It would seem simple enough but it can be difficult to pin point what is emotionally going on inside of you. You could be feeling sad, irritable, or generally apathetic. If you feel out of sorts, don’t busy yourself; take a minute to be mindful and listen to what is triggering you.
2. Recognize How You Cope With Loneliness.
We tend to not handle our loneliness in healthy ways and for the most part fail to recognize when we’re doing so. We reach out to others that are no good for us, spend hours in seclusion or numb our emotions with alcohol or drugs. As a result we end up feeling worse than we did before because of the actions we committed out of loneliness. If you find yourself in certain situations or circumstances with people just to curb your loneliness, make a note of it and develop a plan to change it.
3. Reach Out to Others.
Loneliness, oddly enough, will make us withdrawal from others instead of reach out to others. Make an effort to get together with friends, family and loved ones. If people want to spend time with you or invite you over for a holiday meal; stop yourself from being too proud to accept. You’re not a burden, someone wants to spend time with you. Finally getting involved in group activities such as volunteering or holiday gatherings can really boost your mood.
The holidays can make anyone feel lonesome, but there are always options out there for you. If you feel that you need additional help contact the therapists of Philadelphia MFT for support.
Alanna Gardner, MFT is a sex and family therapist practicing in Philadelphia. She is also a main contributor to TheUrbanRealist. For more advice and encouragement from Alanna follow her here.
